It's hard for me to get my bub to sleep! A Guide to sleeping.

When will my baby sleep through the night?

Sleep is a common topic amongst parents and it is an important and challenging aspect when taking care of your little bub.

The structure of a baby’s sleep cycle is majorly different to ours and this often results in the conflict of your baby waking up in the middle of the night when you would prefer to be sleeping. A parent’s need for sleep is understandable and the stress of the contrasting sleep cycles with your little bub can become stressful. However, to get through this, it is important to understand what your baby is experiencing and therefore you know what to expect and how to handle it.

Why do babies wake up overnight? Babies aren’t born with a clear day/night pattern

Unlike us, babies have not grasped the concept of sleeping at night and being awake during the day. They have to go though this development phase and their experiences and sleep hormones shape this, which begin at around 5-6 months. The melatonin hormones specifically help them to be alert during the day and sleepy at night. 

What to remember:

Babies have shorter sleep cycles than us: An infant’s sleep cycle is much shorter compared to adults and they move from light sleep to deep sleep every 45-60 minutes. They also often need help resettling once they wake up and this would mean the number of times you have to get up during the night.

Babies spend most of their sleeping time in Rapid Eye Movement (REM) sleep

A baby in the state of REM sleep means that they are sleeping lightly and this often causes dreams. This occurs 50% of their sleeping time and since your baby isn’t in a deep sleep, this means that they will frequently wake up and they can struggle to stay asleep.

It can take a while for babies to reach deep sleep

It is common for a baby to take around 20 minutes to reach deep sleep and if they wake before this mark, they are usually in the state of REM sleep.

Babies rely on you for comfort during the night

It is common for babies to feel a little distressed and this may occur in the middle of the night. As they are unable to soothe themselves when under a form of stress, they rely on others for comfort and wake up at night as a result of this.

Remember that your little bub’s sleeping schedule is a journey

Your little bub’s sleeping pattern may differ vastly as they begin to age but it is key to remember that sleep will increase as they get older and the period of you feeling sleep deprived will come to an end!

Sleep is different for each baby, and each parent goes through a different experience with their little bub so it is important to not get discouraged if your baby doesn’t sleep through the night. The sleeping cycle can be a bit of a rollercoaster ride and remember that this is completely normal!


Here are some great products to help with your bub's resting times we suggest using this as a self soothing system so that they get used to their bed and you can (Try) to get some more sleep!

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